Often, in the way we handle stressful situations, we have a ‘go to’ attachment style that either helps us move through the difficulty, or propels us into repeating the same mistakes or unhealthy coping patterns. I offer a model for restoring balance and mental health to our lives that is based on three things: our attachment to others and ourselves, the practice of mindfulness, and a process called mentalizing, which is the psychological attunement to our inner self in the context of a secure attachment relationship. Trauma results from being alone in unbearable emotional pain and the failure to empathically attune to our emotional pain. In the therapeutic setting, we experience a supportive therapeutic relationship that serves as a new springboard for working through life’s issues.

It has been said that we can’t teach what we don’t know.   I’ve had some very challenging experiences in my life –  I’ve grieved the traumatic death of my father, raised two foster children, worked through my painful divorce after 18 years of marriage, and raised three children part of the time as a single mom. These challenges have been pivotal in my own personal and professional growth. Whatever you walk through, I can and will walk with you so that you are not alone in your journey.  We are relational beings, and it is in relation with one another that we can see ourselves in a different light and often more clearly. It is through relating that we are challenged to grow. When we learn healthy new ways of attaching to ourselves and others, this expands our capacity for coping with stress, trauma and feelings of sadness, pain and depression.

My attachment based counseling perspective includes mindfulness practice. With mindfulness, we learn how to be present with ourselves and our emotions in the moment. By doing this, we learn how to first go deeper into what’s troubling us but also grow our capacity for handling negative feelings so that we build resiliency for future struggles. And through mindfulness, we begin to deepen our own compassion for ourselves. The reality is that the only way out of pain is to move through it – we just cannot avoid what is troubling us. But none of us has to go through it alone.

I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor with the State of Colorado (LPC 5721) and authorized by law to practice psychotherapy in Colorado, and an Adjunct Professor of Psychology at Front Range Community College. I offer psychotherapy to children, adolescents and adults.

Average Cost per session:  $75-$120.  Sliding scale available.  Accepted Payment Methods:  Cash, Check, MasterCard, Visa


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